Warp 10...engage!
Speaking of English characters...my London cousin Grace (half Malaysian Chinese half English) just changed her relationship status to "engaged" on Facebook. I haven't seen Grace for ages and ages (probably about eight years) and I've always wanted to go to England so I'm already looking forward to next September.
The previously mentioned Harry Potter fan friend also got engaged a couple weeks ago. She and Grace are both the same age as me. I also have a male age-mate cousin on the other side, but somehow I don't see him marrying any soon.
Me, well, I'll just quote my colleague Angela's response to my question about what age people usually marry at in Colombia:
"Some people marry after high school, some people marry after they finish university, and some people, like me, marry...I don't know when."
Obviously I'm writing about this because it's something I desire, but I'm not too fussed about the "Christmas cake" idea (in Japan, women are like Christmas cakes because they're stale after the 25th). I've known a couple of lady professors who got married in their mid-thirties, like my friend Karen - so I just tend to count it as a cost of being a professional. It's not like that's abnormal for men anyway.
My dad got married at 34 to his former high school physics student...now THAT's a great role model =D
posted by xenobiologista @ 20:42
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I was 28 and Vicky was 30 when we married (yes, Maria Victoria is 2 years older than I am :) That was 7 years ago now.
My family is American/Hungarian. Vicky's family is Filipino/Chinese. My younger brother is 29, marrying this fall. My youngest brother is 27, marrying next year. Vicky still has Filipino cousins now in their 40's that haven't married yet.
Her cousin, Maria Celestial (Celeste), is a very good looking Filipina. She works out, has a good physique, very attractive. She's also imposing and a bit rough around men. We're still trying to find a guy who will recognize that she's tired of being hurt, and that she needs to be treated well.
Marriage isn't a race. Vicky's brother married young, divorced just as quickly. Being devout Filipino Roman Catholics, divorce is forbidden. He had to get the marriage annulled. He's still making payments to his ex-wife. :(
Don't buy into the pressure. More and more people are waiting longer and longer to get married? Why? Because they're learning that the fairy tale isn't real.
Sure, there's many things to be had from a successful relationship, and even some of the combination of assets can be useful if done right. However, allowing our fear of rejection to put us in probably the most serious and risky legal predicament in our lives doesn't make much sense. I think people should have to wait until 30 to make such a decision, ESPECIALLY if the goal isn't to have children.
Keep on doing things differently. There are too many followers these days.
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